I say it all the time. Well in my head all of the time. I rarely say it out loud. I don't want kids. I don't really even want to get married.

Please don't tell me this is a phase I'm going through. That's fantastic that you think that, but even if it is a phase don't tell me. It's like you're saying my feelings and opinions aren't valid simply because it is just one section of my life. Of course they're valid. Keep that to yourself.

I don't want kids because they are loud. I don't want them because they are messy. I don't want them because they aren't developed and cannot be reasoned with . I don't want them because I don't want that kind of responsibility. I don't even take of myself all that well. Would someone seriously trust me to watch a child?

Maybe I'm being unfair.

I wouldn't mind being alone for the rest of life. Of course I would want a healthy social life and to have friends to be with, but the truth is that I am a loner. Not only do I "recharge" my batteries by being alone, most of the time I prefer being alone over being with people.

Then again I do find myself talking to myself a lot more now. Is this the beginning of my descent into crazy-cat lady?

I'm not ruling out having kids. I'm not saying I'll never want them and you cannot change my mind. I'm saying I do not want them now. The future "me" I imagine doesn't include a screaming baby and a small toddler.